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Mopping meditations

Thursday, June 25th, 2009

Mopping the floors is great meditation.  Especially when, as I am mopping I notice the beautiful wood grain of the 97 year old fir floors underneath the mop head.  And as I mop I begin to imagine how beautiful the floor will be when we finally get to refinish them.  Of course we won’t be refinishing the floors until after we finish paying off those student loans.  We are back on the Dave Ramsey plan.  Mopping the floors shows me just one more reason why we need to be gazelles.

My writing formula

Tuesday, June 16th, 2009

If I’m ever going to become a writer, I will have to accept that someone else’s formula for writing won’t work for me.  I have to be myself because I am unique, and I want to write in hopes that there is someone else in the world just a little bit like me.

Someday a Lion

Friday, May 29th, 2009
Maine Coon Kittens By elda1 <a href=

Maine Coon Kittens By elda1 CC-BY-NC

Twenty-six years old and I am dead.  My heart still beats.  I still breathe in Oxygen and expire Carbon Dioxide.  All my vital functions are strong, but I know that it is a facade.

My spirit is flat.

I approach my dreams with equal doses of conceit and self-doubt.  My villans do battle on my shoulder–the screaming and shouting of battle is so loud that I can’t hear myself think.

I know that if I sat down to write, I could write the great American novel.  I fear that if I sit down to write, that I would have nothing to say.

Through the battle, a scrawn golden kitten with mangy fur and big sad eyes looks up at me and meows.  “Don’t give up,”  she says.  Those Sad eyes plead with me.  I know that to give up on my dreams would mean the death of that sad-eyed kitten.  To give up on my dreams would be the death of me.  To fight on above the battle…perhaps that kitten could someday be a lion.

I’m dreaming of summer.

Wednesday, January 28th, 2009

RaspberriesThe sun is shining in my dining room window.  I’m watching the snow-melt drip off the roof above the window.  The branches on the apple tree are also dripping as last night’s snow turns to liquid and drips down onto the snow below.  The yard is blanketed in three feet of snow, and I’m sitting inside dreaming of the day (still a few months away) when I will look at my husband dreamily and say, “Honey, it’s time.”

He will shake the winter out of his bones, pull the shovel out of the back shed, and begin to dig up the soil to create a garden bed.

Together we will gather up the pile of bricks that somebody carelessly into the garden plot.  We will dig out the slate rocks that got put in there too.  The bricks will become the walls of a compost pile so I can create some garden gold.  The slate will become rock pathways between our square foot garden blocks.

Two blocks this summer–four foot square.  Two more blocks next summer.  We’ll keep adding blocks, two at a time, until we have enough.  As we add more blocks, hopefully we will be able to stay supplied in a variety of fresh vegetables all summer and even put a winter’s worth of homegrown produce up during canning season.

I’m dreaming of spring and our apple, pear, cherry, and plums trees being covered in blossoms, bees buzzing lazily about, the air heavy with the scent of lilacs. Summer trees heavy laden with ripe fruit. Cookouts and camping.  Swimming and swinging at the park.  I’m dreaming of long sunny days and stargazing at night.  Firecrackers on Fourth of July.

I’m dreaming of summer, but today I’ll content myself with a warm patch of sunshine on my living room floor.

Building Cathedrals

Friday, January 23rd, 2009

Next time someone asks you what you do at home all day, you can answer, “I’m building cathedrals.” The text that follows is slightly different than the video, but the message is the same:

It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I’m on the phone and ask to be taken to the store. Inside I’m thinking, ‘Can’t you see I’m on the phone?’ Obviously, not.

No one can see if I’m on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see me at all. I’m invisible. The invisible Mom. Some days I am only a pair of hands, nothing more: Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this? Some days I’m not a pair of hands; I’m not even a human being. I’m a clock to ask, ‘What time is it?’ I’m a satellite guide to answer, ‘What number is the Disney Channel?’ I’m a car to order, ‘Right around 5:30 , please.’

I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes that studied history and the mind that graduated summa cum laude – but now they had disappeared into the peanut butter, never to be seen again. She’s going; she’s going; she is gone!

One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from England … Janice had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself. I was feeling pretty pathetic, when Janice turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, ‘I brought you this.’ It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe I wasn’t exactly sure why she’d given it to me until I read her inscription:

‘To Charlotte , with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees.’

In the days ahead I would read – no, devour – the book. And I would discover what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I could pattern my work:

  • No one can say who built the great cathedrals – we have no record of their names.
  • These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished.
  • They made great sacrifices and expected no credit.
  • The passion of their building was fueled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything.

A legendary story in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man, ‘Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that will be covered by the roof? No one will ever see it. And the workman replied, ‘Because God sees.’ I closed the book, feeling the missing pieces fall into place.

It was almost as if I heard God whispering to me, ‘I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does. No act of kindness you’ve done, no sequin you’ve sewn on, no cupcake you’ve baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over. You are building a great cathedral, but you can’t see right now what it will become.’

At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction. But it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride. I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work on something that their name will never be on.

The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.

When I really think about it, I don’t want my son to tell the friend he’s bringing home from college for Thanksgiving, ‘My Mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and presses all the linens for the table.’ That would mean I’d built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home. And then, if there is anything more to say to his friend, to add, ‘you’re gonna love it there.’

As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we’re doing it right. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we have built, but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women.