Welcome to my new visitors from Marriage Monday!
1. He won’t understand you; You won’t understand him.
In our house, one of the most common phrases that I hear from Brenton is, “You’re so cute. I love you” This is usually followed with a silly grin and him shaking his head at me. What he really means is, “Wow! You’re…different (wierd).”
For me, it’s the little things that make me shake my head at him. I’ve never understood why he takes a physics book on vacation with us, or why he sometimes insists on doing things the hard way. I guess he also can wonder why I do things the hard way.
2. In time you will think you have settled into a routine.
It happens with every married couple, over time you settle into a routine. Date night one night, Bible study another, you have regular routine, you go to bed early like old people…
Life becomes calm, and just when you think you’ve got it all figured out…
3. Then he will change something.
I’ll never forget the night when, after over 25 years of marriage, my dad told my mom he didn’t really like pepperoni pizza!
With Brenton, I found out that he doesn’t care whether the shirts are all in the same drawer, but he is very particular about how they are folded. He doesn’t like watermelon, or cantaloupe, or cucumbers–three of my favorite fresh produce items. But I distinctly remember sitting in the grass with him eating ripe watermelon spitting seeds at the car, so when did he stop liking watermelon?
Routines in a relationship are all just a facade. The only thing that stays the same is that everything changes. This is really bothersome to us control-freaks. Sometimes you just have to ligten up.
4. Live Well. Laugh Often. Love Much.
At the end of the day, he’s a good man. Our peculiarities blend nicely. He keeps me laughing. Marriage isn’t always what you expected, and no one can warn you of all the lessons that you need to learn. It’s been said that you should keep your eyes wide open while you’re dating and half closed once you’re married. I’ll add to that. Live well, laugh often, and love much. Love and laughter can wipe away a lot of misunderstandings.
