Date your spouse, Fight for your marriage
When Brenton and I got married, we were both still in college. Life was crazy, and time was in short supply. There were weeks that I only saw him for a few hours a day (usually while he was sleeping). You can imagine the stress that put on a young bride (and groom).
During that insanely busy time, we wrote “Friday Night is Date Night” down in stone. During that first year, I would hold on just for Friday night date night. I would barely see him all week, but I knew that if I could just make it until Friday night, I would have his undivided attention.
A few years have passed since then. We have both graduated from college. Brenton has a job that doesn’t follow him home. We actually see each other in the evenings and spend time together. Even though our lives have changed, Friday night is still date night.
With our lives changing, our date nights have changed too. In college, sometimes we would just eat dinner together and then fall asleep. Now we like to play games together, or go walking under the stars. Last summer we went out to the city park and watched a meteor shower. I expect that date night will continue to change as our lives continue to change. No matter how busy our lives get, we have to set aside time for our marriage and our relationship.
Friday night date nights started out as a necessary survival tactic. I guess in a way they still are a survival tactic. With divorce occurring at a startling rate, those of us who are married must be proactive about fighting for our marriages. There are so many forces trying to pull our marriage apart. If we don’t fight for it, who will?
Tonight is date night and the husband is on his way home for lunch. I might try and talk him into a Wendy’s spicy chicken sandwich date
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Tags: Date Night, dating your spouse, Marriage, Relationships
January 27th, 2008 at 12:08 am
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January 27th, 2008 at 9:36 am
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January 27th, 2008 at 9:44 am
Good morning!
What a great post, filled with insight that only can be gained from being in a long-term relationship!
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Blessings to you on this beautiful Sunday!
January 28th, 2008 at 1:33 am
Not a very intentionally written emotional post it seems but somehow it brought tears to my eyes.
That’s really a beautiful story and a very positive take on the messed up world of relations and ships that seem to pass in the night…
Thanks for the read.
January 28th, 2008 at 11:53 am
@Hopeful Spirit. We have been married 3 years and dating 3 years before that. It doesn’t seem like very long, but one day I hope to look back and say, “Wow, has it been 25 years? It seems like just yesterday was our wedding day.”
We have to be intentional at fostering love in relationships.
@Ohio Realtor. I’m glad it touched your heart. Brenton and I plan on sticking together. I feel like the intentional nature of our life (such as dating, enjoying hobbies together, and our faith) will greatly increase our chances of having a successful, long-lasting, love filled marriage.
January 29th, 2008 at 7:20 pm
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